It's International Women's Day Everyday. A tribute to my asian mom

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πŸ‘ΈπŸ» My asian mom.. sometimes utterly annoying because of their constant worrying, stressing and smothering. Taking care of everyone, except for themselves. I used to take it for granted, sometimes got annoyed, but now just realise how much she has sacrificed and does not understand, because she has never experienced β€œour current lives”.

πŸ™‡πŸ»β€β™€οΈ Where I grew up wearing my jeans inside out (yes, this was a trend), dyeing my hair blond (probably a little identity crisis), being extremely loud and provocative with teachers, boys and anyone in a 2 metre vicinity (puberty, is that you?) - mom and her lady friends would be π’‘π’–π’ƒπ’π’Šπ’„π’π’š 𝒔𝒄𝒐𝒍𝒅𝒆𝒅 π’ƒπ’š π’•π’‰π’†π’Šπ’“ 𝒕𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒔 if they would wear jeans, do anything of the above or do anything that would make them stand out in general. Their teachers in communist China would commence the day by announcing the black sheep in front of everyone at school. Mom never dared to talk to boys at school.

πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘¦β€πŸ‘¦ Where I β€œπ’“π’†π’‚π’π’π’š 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒂 π’—π’‚π’„π’‚π’•π’Šπ’π’β€ and β€œπ’‡π’†π’†π’ 𝑰 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 π’ˆπ’†π’• 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆”,racking up on carbon emission points where Greta Thunberg would, rightfully so, bitchslap me in the face for, mom would sleep in a 6mΒ² space with her 3 younger brothers until her 18th year. At 19 β€œshe really got out there” and was sent to the Netherlands to provide for her family.

πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™‚οΈπŸ™…πŸ»β€β™‚οΈWhere we π’”π’˜π’Šπ’‘π’† π’“π’Šπ’ˆπ’‰π’•/π’”π’˜π’Šπ’‘π’† 𝒍𝒆𝒇𝒕/π’”π’˜π’Šπ’‘π’† π’“π’Šπ’ˆπ’‰π’•/π’”π’˜π’Šπ’‘π’† 𝒍𝒆𝒇𝒕, mom could choose between my dad or my uncle as marriage was required within a short time of arrival, out of fear for deportation back to China otherwise. Mom’s aunt β€œswiped right” and chose dad, because β€œyour uncle was younger than I was”.

πŸ‡¨πŸ‡³ Where we grew up with main concerns whether β€œAndy loves me or not” and β€œI hate my parents for putting me up with piano practice”, mom grew up with the main concernΒ  β€œwhether family members were still alive” because of the cultural revolution and riots in China.

πŸ‘ŸWhereas I’ve got a 100+ pair sneaker collection, jackets ready for 361 seasons that will never come and a sunglass collection Anna Wintour would be scared of, Asian mom would receive 𝒐𝒏𝒆 π’‘π’‚π’Šπ’“ 𝒐𝒇 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒆𝒔 at the start of every Chinese New Year. A couple of sizes bigger β€œso she could grow into them”.

πŸ– Where I get hangry and stock up my cart with vegan snacks, chocolate-for-the-darker-days and cheeses freshly imported from the south of France, mom would spend the entire year looking forward to Chinese New Year again: the time that that 𝒐𝒏𝒆 π’‘π’Šπ’ˆ they raised during the entire year would be slaughtered and serve as their yearly meat intake. The rest of the year they’d survive on preserved vegetables, dried sweet potatoes and rice.

✨✨✨ 𝑾𝒆 π’Žπ’Šπ’ˆπ’‰π’• π’”π’•π’Šπ’π’ 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒂 π’π’π’π’ˆ π’˜π’‚π’š, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 π’˜π’†β€™π’—π’† 𝒂𝒍𝒔𝒐 π’„π’π’Žπ’† 𝒂 π’π’π’π’ˆ π’˜π’‚π’š.

πŸ‘©πŸΌΒ πŸ‘©πŸ»β€πŸ«πŸ‘©πŸ½β€πŸš’πŸ‘±πŸ½β€β™€οΈSo.. happy international women’s day. Happy mom’s day. Happy-to-be-you-day. And let’s-just-be-grateful-we’re-women-in-today’s-world-day.

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